How to Convince People You Don't Need Help

Hey Guys. So, as great as this is, I have a friend, who we shall now call Nico, has been dealing with some stuff  as of late. People want him to go seek help, but he doesn't feel he needs it. I remain neutral on the issue, however, he has told me that he can't find any help on the internet to convince people he doesn't need help. When you search the title of this blog post on google, you will find many guides to ask for psychological help, or help form a counselor, or an HR rep. But this is to teach you how to avoid such help.

1. Be sure in yourself that you don't need help

Ask yourself, often times you will know, inside, if you need it or not. Stop lying to yourself if you are.

Test yourself, see how people react to what you say and do, gauge if these are normal things to say and do based on that, and if others do similar things.

Look up symptoms of the problem they say you have. Again, just be sure of what you are talking about before you conclude.

Ask the people why they are concerned, be receptive, care for what they say, they only want to help you because they care about you

     2.Know what they want you to be helped with

• A big key to prove people wrong is to know what you are proving wrong.
• Know the symptoms if it is a mental illness.

     3. Prove them wrong.

• Talking about the issue right off the bat, is, of course, metaphorical suicide. Instead, act perfectly normal, be a happy and engaging person! Get your work done, talk with friends, joke around, even if it is painful(Which is a good point to needing help, but I digress), just be normal, at least for a few days.
• This will plant a message in their brain that just maybe, they were wrong maybe you are fine.

     4. Talk to them

• Any and all people that want to get you help, talk to them at this point, maybe over email, maybe in person.
• Email is best if you are afraid, or will get emotional, you can hide your feelings that are necessary to, and express those that are necessary
• Face to face is preferable, if you are able, because they can see the emotion you express, and it makes them feel as if they are, in fact, talking to a person.
• Be straight with them, but kind, don't try to avoid words, but treat it as if, and excuse the morbid metaphor, you are telling them a family member has died, and explaining the details, or as if you are telling them they can't afford to repair the roof on their home, and laying out the numbers.
• Use short phrases, not in the respect to shorten their sentence, but in the respect of letting them talk, it is a conversation, not a narrative.

      5. Decide together

• Make the decision as a team, to get you help or not, always remember, they care about you, they want you to be happy. That is why they are doing this.

Just remember, no matter what is decided, seeking help is not a bad thing, and whether you need it or not, it is probably going to be just the one session. It is a small chunk of your time, and, if it is really going to be that bad of an experience, you may need the help. No pain no gain.

I hope this was helpful! See ya and Allons-y!